As you traverse the landscape of free Christian dating sites, you’re more than likely to encounter situations where you’re dating a guy you’re attracted to only to find out after it’s way to late that he’s a major jerk. The good news is that in most cases your radar should be able to pick up warning signs within the first few dates. This gives you plenty of time to cut things off before you get in too deep.
When we go on our first few dates we have a tendency to overlook warning signs. Of course these signs almost always become more obvious the longer two people are together, but if you know what to look for, you can usually spot these signs very early on.
Here are some early warning signs that the person you are dating is actually a jerk in the making:
1. As inane as it may sound, watch out for the guy who’s trying too hard to win you over. This is often a sign of someone who is very insecure and insecurity is often a precursor of jerk behavior. Some of the signs include name dropping, talking up accomplishments, or how much money he makes, etc. Now, I know that everyone wants to make a good first impression and many men seem to think they need to impress especially during courtship. But sometimes it’s just hard to tell if all the bravado is just nerves or something more. To determine what it is, just keep your eyes open on the second and third dates. If he keeps coming across as being too showy, you may want to end things since he is most likely showing you his true personality and not just a case of nerves.
2. On the first few dates, make note of the way he treats other people. How does he act when he does or says something embarrassing? Does he get angry and defensive or can he laugh about it with you? Sure he may be showering you with attention since he wants to make a good impression, but how is he treating the people in line at the movie, or the wait staff at the restaurant? If he gets upset or is rude to other people this again could be a sign he’s a jerk in disguise.
3. The way he treats his family, and how they treat him, can be a very good indication of how he relates to people. If possible, try to meet his family fairly early on. If this isn’t possible because his family is not close by, try to meeting up with his friends.
4. Is he genuinely interested in you or is he more interested in talking about his own interests. Does he make subtle or overt criticisms of your job, your clothes, your weight, your friends, your hairstyle, then turns around and claim he was just making a joke? If so, he is already revealing his standing in jerkdom and it’s time to move on.
Obviously, not all of these things would mean that someone is a jerk, but it could mean it will be hard to have a good relationship with them. It’s best to cut ties early on, than to ignore warning signs and have to deal with ending the relationship after trouble starts. You will need to find a balance. Just make sure when you are keeping an eye out for jerk traits, that you don’t begin to expect perfection. A good guy won’t be perfect but you should not settle for jerks.
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